The butterflies are dead! 10 mistakes to avoid in love relationships ...

Once upon a time you were an innocent child who believed in frogs turning into princes and saving locked-up princesses.

Love seemed like a mystery to unveil on a dangerous path but a promise of eternal happiness once you had met THE ONE.

Since then, you?ve had many flings, felt the butterflies in your chest, and a few broken hearts later, you are and still wondering why the legendary ?and they lived happily ever after? didn?t work out for you.

It?s time to wake up: butterflies don?t last forever!?

Here are 10 common mistakes to avoid in love relationships:

1) Project your fantasy of the ?ideal couple? on your partner. Your partner is not here to boast your ego and show to the world the ideal image you want to display. Neither are you in this relationship to be only half of who you really are.

2) Expect the other one to know what you want without expressing your needs. Love doesn?t make people clairvoyant.If you want something ask, don?t get angry that he/she ?should have known?. Also, remember that requests have a beauty demands don?t have.

3) Limiting the relationship to what?s right or wrong: thinking we are right and our partner needs to learn from us or that we are wrong and victimizing ourselves. In the vast majority of our arguments, no one is actually right or wrong.

4) Restricting our full potential: we each have the right to become 100% who we want to be and not all of it can happen within the space of a relationship.

5) Take each other for granted: we change, everyday. How could we expect that the person with us doesn?t? When we put each other into boxes we don?t give space for the relationship to be renewed and it gets stuck in the past.

6) Get stuck in the comfort zone: we naturally seek security and our egos like to be well taken care of. Overtime, we become complacent in our relationships, we don?t tell each other the tough things that could make us grow.

7) Not being 100% present. Especially as we live together, we start wandering away in our thoughts and don?t give 100% of ourselves to each other when we are together.

8) Not sharing your fundamental values. You may enjoy each other and have a lot of commonalities but It?s the core values that need to be nourished for a relationship to grow.

9) Thinking love is enough. It?s not, a relationship is hard work every day.

10) Breaking an agreed rule. Allowing yourself to break an agreed rule erodes trust. So stick to it, unless it not longer applies and then change it. Remember though: everybody can make mistakes and forgiving is a strong act of love.

What do you think of these 10 mistakes? Have you experienced them yourself? As always, I am grateful for your comments and discussion. ?

Source: http://peeledonion.com/2012/08/19/the-butterflies-are-dead-10-mistakes-to-avoid-in-love-relationships/

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